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Bad company corrupts good character.
We live in an era where the reality of this statement is increasingly becoming evident in the lives of many.
These ‘many’ now worry about the quality of their relationships and their impact on them. Parents counsel their children on how to make better friends whereas these rarely make it a conscious decision.
It doesn’t take a relationship guru to understand the impact relationships, in this case, friendships can have on us.
The quality of our friendships is often key to a great deal of our fulfillment and extent of growth and achievement in life.
It is helpful to know that there are degrees to friendships. Having many people in your outer circle is fair enough.
They could be people who do not even share the same values as you but whose company you enjoy given there are no negative influences on your spiritual, mental, and social well-being.
But a true friend? That’s someone in the inner court. And it cannot just be anyone.
Let’s see a few tips to gloriously thriving friendships.
This sounds cliché and maybe it is. But how do you grow a friendship with someone who isn’t the right person in the first place? I mean someone who doesn’t share the same core values as you.
This is not about being judgmental. It is simply the reality that your differences in priorities and values will automatically draw you apart and prevent a deep form of intimacy.
If I am a Christian, I might value going to Church. However, my muslin friend might not want to join me.
That is already a breach in deep connection and extent of friendship. This however does not mean folk should be judgmental, critical, and relate ‘only with their kind’.
We should be open and willing to love people from whatever background. Just do not be passive as to whom you let in.
They might not come with you to church today, but you might find yourself in the club with them tomorrow. Your values are more important.
For any relationship to grow, one cannot afford to be passive about it or leave it up to fate.
Practically, this means being intentional about getting to know them, their likes, dislikes, hobbies, love languages, and even families.
It is about checking on them and giving out a helping hand when it is needed
No friendship thrives without the virtues of honesty, transparency, and authenticity.
No faking allowed. Be the friend who says the truth irrespective of whether it might hurt them at the moment. But say it in love.
Do not give any false impressions about yourself. It helps no one. Give them access to your life. Go for genuine, holy intimacy.
However, also realize that some phases of life might not permit access to some things. For example, if they get married you will no longer have access to all the gist about everything and vice versa.
Guess what? That is perfectly fine. Friendship is also about respecting each other’s priorities.
And not only that, pray for each other. If you have never prayed for your friend, begin today. Ask them to join you pray as often as possible.
Pray for your needs, talk about God, and fellowship together when possible. Friends that pray together stay together.
Do not always be on the receiving end
How easy is it to be the friend who always receives help, favors, and assistance? I challenge you to take a bold step for your friendship today.
Do a kind gesture, take them out, or call them. It is better to give than to receive. Indeed, it is more fulfilling
Appreciate them. Envy and comparison never helped any relationship. Celebrate your friend. Praise them. Acknowledge their strengths. Swallow your pride.
Love them genuinely. You make your uniqueness worthy of honor when you celebrate that of others.
What would Jesus do?
This is simply a call to model your friendship after Jesus’ relationship with those he called friends, those who choose to follow Him, love Him, and obey Him.
In everything, ask yourself: what would Jesus do? How would He react? Well, He did not sacrifice a thing or two.
Jesus went to the extent of sacrificing His life. Ouf! We’ve got a long way to go.
Friendships are what make the world fun. Everyone deserves a person they can turn to in times of need.
If you are one of those who do not have a person they can call friend, may I tell you about Jesus? The Bible calls Him an ever-present help in times of need.
Begin a relationship with him today to experience the most fulfilling relationship ever. Also, ask him to bring someone of trust your way.
I pray you to recognize them. I pray you to make the right friends. I pray they thrive.
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